I am the oldest of five girls. If you follow me on Instagram, I shared a couple photos of my sister crew this past Sunday for National Sister Day. You can check us out the night before I got married and shortly after we jumped out of an airplane (two vastly different moments – haha).
While we all get along great despite living across the country, we did our fair share of fighting and bickering growing up. What siblings don’t right? However, when one of us was gone for one reason or another, the dynamic always seemed to change. It didn’t matter which one of us it was, but the change in chemistry seemed to bring about a bit of peace and quiet.
Spending time alone with one children seems to put this scenario on steroids. Taking one child out of a busy family situation and focusing solely on them not only seems so much easier, but also offers a chance to really bond with that child. When I spend time with just one child, he’s so well behaved and engaged in what we’re doing. In reality, it’s probably a direct result of me being more in tune and engaged with him. Nonetheless, I love the special time I get to spend with just one child when we make time.
J’s still a little young for one on one dates. But to make time for those special one on one moments, T and I started taking occasional (monthly or so) morning dates. M does the same. T and M include the Children’s Museum or the local parks on their list of favorite destinations. I’ve taken T to Jamba Juice, Firecakes for donuts, out for hot chocolate, and my recent favorite, the library.
On a rainy Sunday morning, we hopped on the ‘L’ (Chicago’s subway system) and headed to the Chicago Public Library which is just a mile or so down the street from our house. On our way, T in his heavy duty Bogs boots and me in my purple Hunters, we tromped through puddles, caught some rain falling from the tracks and admired the trains passing by overhead.
Inside the library, he picked out a handful of books to bring home, and we enjoyed some time together reading a couple of books before we left.
While the trip home could easily have been one simple train ride back, T loves the trains. We decided to hop on and off a few trains and made our trip home on three separate trains around the Loop. It took far longer than needed, but we weren’t in any rush.
As we waited for the trains on the not-so-warm rainy day, I wrapped my arm around him and we cuddled. We talked about all sorts of things crossing his mind. We inspected each train that passed by, and he asked me loads of questions about them. The morning was awesome, and something I wish I made more time for.
He still talks about that trip to the library. He inquires about the train stops where we transferred and asks to ride the trains regularly. It’s really pretty neat how impactful a little one-on-one time can be for the kiddos in our lives. Just writing this makes me want to plan a handful more of our special dates. I’m sure we’ll have a few more, and I’ll snap some photos for Instagram. If you’re interested, be sure to check out and follow along (p.s. I love Instagram!).
Do you take your little ones on special dates or field trips? If so, what do you do? I’d really love more ideas, especially ones that don’t involve sweets (even though T really those too)!